another woman and some

with only 2 hours of sleep in the past 48hrs i had to go to church on Sunday only because i had signed up to help with the youth program.

my only prayer was that it would end quick, it didn't!
at the end, the youth pastor gave a call for testimonies, every one and their mother had a testimony,just as i was contemplating skipping out,i saw one of the girls who was also a helper at the program get up to speak.
i 've known her for about 4yrs,she's one very pretty girl, she has a nice sense of style, i also know she has a son, just never bothered to ask her story.
in her own words:
my name is Heather,
i want to tell you about the tender mercies of God.
when the Bible says his mercies are new each and every morning, you better believe it, cos it's true.
for some of you who don't know me, i was born and raised in this church, i accepted the Lord at a young age, i did everything i was supposed to do as a good christian,, obeyed my parents went to school, didn't smoke or drink didn't fornicate, and so on,i considered myself a "good girl"
you can all just imagine how i felt when i found myself divorced at 22 with a child, that wasn't the worst part, the part that hurt the most was the looks, the gossiping,the way i was no longer a "good girl" in the eyes of my fellow Christians!
all because i refused to stay married to a wolf in sheep' s clothing?
i remember many a time when i came to church with tears in my eyes pushing my baby's stroller, but i came, every Sunday, every program, without fail.
why? even though, i felt rejected by my brethren never once,did i feel rejected by my God,the truth is, i felt His love more than ever.
i was being sustained daily by His mercy and grace.
today, His love is real to me, i have experienced His tender mercies, i live everyday by His grace. how would anyone know of God's mercies if they've never fallen from grace? i count myself blessed to know God's Mercy and grace at a young age, His love is as sure a the breath i take.
God bless u all.}



nb:how was i able to remember all this in my sleep deprived state?
i didn't. i bought the CD..lol

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that's sista!!

the fab5 hosted a baby shower for Roli on saturday.. tres fab!

i have known Roli for about 7 years now, she is one of the most sincere, honest and down to earth people i know, she quickly became good friends with us despite the difference in age, some of her age mates/friends chide her still to this day about playing with small small girls. their biggest palavar was our calling Roli her name rather than antie Roli. (at Roli's insistence)

over the past 7 years Roli has seen us thru thick and thin..from an emergency crash pad when a certain someone was thrown out by her shakazulu( that's u udu)even tho she was warned/begged/threatened not to shack up with him. to the place to go whenever we were too broke to pay attention or simply just to raid for groceries. (rofl)i can recall a number of times when she was raided by all five of us in the same week at different times for the same exact items.. one time she met the fifth raider at the door coat in arms,(that would be moi) and said "oya nisho nstore".or the staging place each time we had an owambe affair for gele and jewelries (some of her jewelries are still making rounds)i might disclose details for a fee or maybe not for hush money...
i can't forget her paying for a tutor when a certain someone tried to hide flunking calculus and lost a whole semester!! (shako jiya)what about the way she was always there for a certain drama queen? (the oscar goes to...)

we had a chance to return the favor a couple of times when all her so called friends got married and moved to another planet...
i can say without any doubt that,we learned first hand what it means to have faith in God and what integrity is..
as u can see it was only natural that we host her first baby shower at 39.


from now on, it's sista Roli we have an example to set o.

Sista Roli,we didn't mean to make u cry o,(we all hope it was tears of joy)
thanks a trillion for everything.(yes we saw the faces of all them pantis)
what can i say? hey,u raised us well.

a woman and some more

this weekend was great..
i was in the company of some exceptional women.


met Mabel on Friday night at my friend oyin's bday.(mabel was oyin's college room mate)the minute she walked in, she radiated elegance and poise, correct wattage smile, simple but elegant attire, minimal makeup and a twinkle in her eyes.
when introduced to me she gave me the biggest hug and said, we finally meet! my gorgeous sister!!(apparently oyin had told her about me just as she had told me about her)
so we sat down to talk......
i remembered oyin making plans and going out of state for Mabel's wedding last year. it was one of those "wedding of the year" shindig.

it happened that the groom skipped out on the wedding day, what did home girl do?

she had the Tiffany blinder overnighted to the bobo,packed up the wedding dress and headed to the church , where she rededicated her life to God and help lead more than fifty people to salvation,had the hall redecorated for a thanksgiving party, gave all the guests the option to take back their gifts before donating them to charity and then she partied till dawn.needless to say, it was a memorable party.

i remembered being proud of how she handled the situation and yet concerned about her when oyin recounted the events,and i insisted she check on her often.

as expected there was a lot of "talk", some said she must not have loved the bobo, other said she was masking the pain, some said she was still in shock ...

i asked,if she cried,if she loved the bobo and where she got the strength to move on?

her response:
i cried for about 5 mins and then it dawned on me he was not who i thought he was which means i was crying for someone who didn't exist, that's when i realize that i should be thankful,I'll take a cancelled wedding any day to a miserable marriage. won't u?
then i got very angry, angry at myself angry at my parents:here they are throwing me the biggest party ever just because i snagged a man, as if to say this is your biggest achievement ever!
how come they didn't throw a big party for my 21st bday, what about college graduation? graduation from law school? passing the bar? heck! why didn't i throw myself a big party for any or all of those milestones? that's when i decided i should celebrate myself.
i loved him,i still talk to him, can't waste my time being bitter or negative what's the point of that? my strength is from the love of God and the love i have for myself.
i have no regrets at all. i'm dating a great guy if it leads to marriage good if not great.

Oyin,
glad ur bday party rocked! u rocked that fasasi!!(i want my manute boo back kia kia)
thanks to mabel, we're all throwing bday parties this year(our own contribution to the economy.. yes ke)